How to Talk to a Loved One About Their Mental Health

Does a loved one need mental health support? Here’s how you talk about it

How to Have the Conversation

It’s a talk nobody wants to have. It can feel strange, intrusive – weird, even. But it’s got to be done because you love him/her/them. It’s that simple.

The tough part is sitting down and initiating that difficult but necessary conversation.

Starting the Conversation

A few ground rules. Sensitivity. Openness. A safe space and no distractions. 

MSW and therapist, Sarah Jones, stresses the importance of empathy and non-judgmental language. Let the person know you’re there to listen and to help.

Expressing Concern

Focus on behavior or feelings you’ve observed. Don’t make assumptions or offer diagnoses.

A brief quiz – choose A or B.

A:  “You’ve really been out in-left-field lately. Is it that job thing that’s got you so sullen?” 

B:  “I’ve noticed you’ve seemed more withdrawn lately. Is everything okay?”

B is, of course, the correct answer. This approach opens the door to sharing and won’t make the loved one feel pressured or go on the defensive.

Active Listening

Listening actively is critical. Don’t immediately suggest solutions. Validate your loved one’s feelings and reflect back what’s being said to make sure you understand:  “It sounds like you’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately…”

Offering Support 

Once you’ve heard what your loved’s one been going through, then it’s time for practical support. You might offer to help research mental health resources. You might just let them know you’re there to listen whenever an ear is needed. You might encourage seeking out professional help.

Getting Professional Help

This can be a sensitive situation. Use resources like HelpGuide.org to find out what options are available, including therapy and support groups. Gently suggest that professional guidance is out there whenever your loved one’s ready.

Addressing Resistance 

Resistance is a common problem, and it’s easy enough to understand when you consider the stigma and fear that sadly still surround mental health. If you meet with hesitation, offer reassurance. Seeking support is a positive step – and you’ll be there for the entire journey.

Caring for Yourself

Supporting someone else’s mental health can be emotionally taxing. Your well-being matters, too. Take breaks, look for support from others, and if you need to, reach out to a therapist yourself.

Continuing the Conversation

Mental health is an ongoing journey. Check in with your loved one regularly, keep the lines of communication open, and be patient. Rome wasn’t built in a day – and neither is mental health.

Conclusion 

Talking freely about mental health issues with a loved one is never easy, but it’s the first step to a more individuated life. By following these guidelines you can play a significant role in helping a loved one navigate their issues. Mental health is a journey you take together.